Guess what -- you need to get selfish.
That's right. You need to throw everything down and commit to only doing what you want to do when you want to do it - fuck everyone else.
Five years ago, filled with anxiety, depression, self loathing I decided to do this, and you know what I discovered? The moment I decided I would only do things I wanted to do...I started doing a lot of awesome new stuff. But more importantly I did a lot of the same stuff. Only this time I didn't have that drag of obligation, there was no resentment. Most importantly I realized I really actually am a very selfless person by nature...when I allow myself to be selfish.
In fact the first thing I did was start teaching for free and outline a scholarship for artists from my hometown.
That's how I got rid of that nagging "you're so selfish" voice that would ruminate round my head fifty times a day.
Most people are not selfish, we become that way (and miserable and cold) when our reasons for doing things come from obligation rather than true desire.
So go forth - Be Selfish - only do what you want -- and see who you really are.
NOTE: If you are a psychopath, please disregard this blog post. Please do contact me as I would like to ask you many questions. No judgment - just curiosity.
NOTE NOTE: If you do this and discover you truly are a selfish dick....good. At least now you know and if you want to you can do something about it.
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